The Principles For A Happy Relationship

I know many people think you can't have a healthy relationship without arguing from time to time, but if your disputes are breaking you apart as a couple, maybe you need to try and keep these tips in mind:

• Are you really mad at your significant other? Before you bite their head off and unleash your fury, step back for a second and think; is this really their fault? Chances are maybe you've just had a bad day and you want to take it out on someone, or stress has been building, or maybe you're even angry with yourself. Things will go much better if you go to you SO for someone to listen, rather than using them as a punching bag.

• Appreciate the little things, always. Don't take it for granted that your partner does the dishes, makes you a drink, or picks up the kids. Complaining when your partner has a sit down after all that and telling them they don't pull their weight, is a sure fire way to an argument. 

• Remember that your SO is human. Everyone makes mistakes, and it's better to support your partner when they do because chances are they wont be proud of themselves either, and if you shout at them, you'll just be making things worse. If you look after your partner through the bad times as well as the good, they'll do the same for you.

• Timing is everything. if you genuinely need to sit down and discuss a problem with your relationship, don't do it when they're at work, don't nag them by text whilst they're out with their friends, and don't make little quips at them in public. It can only end badly! Your partner probably wants to talk about it as well, but there's no doubt that adding frustration to the mix will lead to bad communication.

• Don't go to friends for advice constantly. Your friends may have been through this before, but they are not the one in the relationship, and they don't know everything about your partner. If you have an issue, discuss it with your partner, not with your friends!

• Your SO isn't psychic. They don't know why you're stomping around the house and throwing things at them. If something is obvious to you, it might not be obvious to them, and when it's pointed out, they could fix the problem quickly rather than starting an arguement.